Learn to Be Joyful

Another best word of advice I ever received was, “Don’t even think about disciplining your child until you have chosen to be a joyful momma with a joyful home.”

The concept is that when discipline is surrounded by a joyful mother who is in the pursuit of more joy, the human heart responds eagerly. We all know how much easier it is to receive correction and guidance from a person who lavishes us with genuine peace and good-will. I don’t mean that we have to be smiling and bubbly when we correct our child; on the contrary, these occasions usually call for us to be sober and firm. But I mean that when a child is in a joyful environment with joyful relationships, he will want to heed the correction, because he loves the community that he is a part of.

It wasn’t long into parenting when I saw my child’s need for correction and knew I needed  to get the joy, joy, joy, joy down in my heart… and fast. Of course, it wasn’t for this reason alone that I choose to be joyful, but it sure put a fire under my pants!  And now I know that joy is a daily choice that doesn’t always come easily, but when I do pursue it, our homeschool is incredible.

Here are my top 3 tips to becoming a joyful mother:

1. Smile. I hope I give this advice one million times on this site. I believe that my smile is my most powerful, brilliant, effective attribute as a mother and a wife. In fact, just recently, my eldest daughter said, “Mom, when you smile, I know that everything is all right.”

2. Sing or hum. Did your mother ever sing quietly to herself while she was cleaning or just moseying around the house? Mine did. It let me know that she was in a good mood, that the world was not about to collapse, and that we were at peace with one another. I’ve noticed that if I am singing or humming to myself, my children play contentedly and the environment in our home feels secure.

3. Pour your heart out to God. Because joy is a fruit of the Spirit, it will appear in our lives when we talk with Him and listen to Him. I’ll be the first to admit that motherhood is replete with anxieties, annoyances, and personal struggles with sin. When I talk to God about these things, receive His grace to overcome them, and walk in victory, the result is… true joy.

What do you do to be a joyful momma?

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5 Responses to Learn to Be Joyful

  1. Tracey says:

    This is such treasured advice! I do my best to take time to just sit and enjoy a few minutes a day without a laptop, TV or other electronic device taking my attention. The children flock to me when I do this. They love a mama that isn’t distracted.

  2. Anna says:

    This post brought tears to my eyes. This is how I want to be. And I’ve been able to fake it in the past, but it’s getting much harder to fake now that I have two little ones under the age of 2. I’ve been struggling with a lot of (postpartum?) anxiety and it’s hard to focus and be at peace. I want to be genuinely joyful, not falsely joyful. I really do need to pour out my heart to the Lord about these difficult days… thank you for the reminder.

  3. Rebecca says:

    This post is so needed! By me and every mommy out there. Thank you. Also, your blog is such a blessing! A friend shared it with me and i love it :)

  4. amy in peru says:

    rest when I’m tired.
    take a break when I’m frustrated.
    eat when I’m hungry.

    these things really make a big difference!


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